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One of my patients, a successful businessman, tells me that before his cancer he would become depressed unless things went a certain way. Happiness was "having the cookie." If you had the cookie, things were good. 2 _6 u& I7 {; N 8 R1 Z9 w3 W0 T$ }我有一位病人,他是一个成功的商人,告诉我,在他患癌症之前,凡事如果没有确定下来他就忧心忡忡。对他而言,幸福是“拥有小甜饼”。 ) ~# ^6 z5 x2 q ) D$ V w2 j2 S& y c/ G, N" T7 s/ gIf you didn't have the cookie, life wasn't worth a damn. Unfortunately, the cookie kept changing.* F) T% P, B; N. J0 E/ J0 e
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如果你拥有了小甜饼,一切都一帆风顺。如果你没有小甜饼,生活就一文不值。 0 {" D" w8 z, ^7 J# r* x- T+ ]5 B' W2 s5 r/ d! U- a- H
Some of the time it was money, sometimes power, sometimes sex. At other times, it was the new car, the biggest contract, the most prestigious address. * e8 }' j5 {9 N3 @# k7 j% n $ e2 p: a# n' h+ e: U不幸的是,小甜饼总是不断变换着,有时是金钱,有时是权力,有时是欲望。在其他时候,它是一辆新车、一份数额最大的合同、或者一个享有声望的通讯地址。 . w2 ~7 T' e- j7 B: f! H. E . I: u3 ]7 i1 E6 HA year and a half after his diagnosis of prostate cancer he sits shaking his head ruefully. "It's like I stopped learning how to live after I was a kid.0 F6 s+ C" |3 U1 }8 n# z0 P
5 ~7 h( |& o) D! W在他被诊断出患有前列腺癌的一年半之后,他坐在那里,悲天悯人地摇着头,说:“长大以后,我好像就不知道怎样生活了。 8 q5 F# ~3 ]& X6 E9 z& G" p! x* [7 v) t% b' p! z
When I give my son a cookie, he is happy. If I take the cookie away or it breaks, he is unhappy. ) d5 K# n) P; t3 w3 c4 o* Q D+ R& X7 D `( X# ^. i; C当我给我儿子一个小甜饼时,他心花怒放。如果我拿走甜饼或者是小甜饼碎了,他就闷闷不乐。 . E, O L! ]( S+ n1 }0 } ; J* R/ g! J/ p! G. f5 K( zBut he is two and a half and I am forty-three. It's taken me this long to understand that the cookie will never make me happy for long.3 F3 ]9 A5 W5 D. T) W
8 E% S* s* [0 V L3 wThe minute you have the cookie it starts to crumble or you start to worry about it crumbling or about someone trying to take it away from you.2 |+ I$ E5 Y8 T- a. j* E( _9 q, k
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从你拥有小甜饼的那一刻,它就开始破碎,或者你就开始担心它会破碎,抑或你开始担心别人拿走它。5 t$ |7 R& H9 L+ S% o
* K9 S& i: x7 O5 u- ~; B1 u. f8 vYou know, you have to give up a lot of things to take care of the cookie, to keep it from crumbling and be sure that no one takes it away from you. 3 g' {) g" i# m; x) h ! u* _/ t6 Q6 ?) z7 \2 f! ]% c为了守护你的小甜饼,为了防止它破碎或者确定别人不会从你手中夺走它,你不得不放弃许多东西。2 v6 z8 K d5 V3 m0 _ n
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You may not even get a chance to eat it because you are so busy just trying not to lose it. & x$ e2 n/ I( W4 i# e; g ?4 Z: z. G0 A# |+ B8 Z. }- i你忙于不让自己失去它,甚至没有时间享受它。4 _: Y& p9 n8 m! `: q: ?) E
6 r3 S8 ]: }8 O+ L& b9 lHaving the cookie is not what life is about." My patient laughs and says cancer has changed him. 3 v# X: o% O% A4 @8 R5 y8 O. ~: e! H9 x8 c/ [% _, ?
拥有小甜饼并不是生活的全部内容。”我的病人笑着说癌症已经改变了他。 ! @3 H4 F- Z, C0 r' U2 ?2 _% n- X3 r 0 s: L& I/ I& m- IFor the first time he is happy. No matter if his business is doing well or not, no matter if he wins or loses at golf. " , T1 X, [6 S) j4 Z L 8 E* k( u* E5 A& @2 h+ m! D不论他的生意是否一帆风顺,不论他在打高尔夫球时是输是赢,他有生以来第一次感到幸福。) C5 a0 Q* F' i3 u4 E, e- ?
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Two years ago, cancer asked me, 'Okay, what's important? What is really important?' Well, life is important. / A8 K! Z, f+ }. o' G* b% W( z2 M" J' W6 E- H4 B9 c' W" J3 n
“两年前,癌症问我‘什么重要?什么才真正的重要?’对,生命重要。 & F5 D* M+ c8 Y# P! D9 \: \' L" [ m# U; }* b9 R- {, ^
Life. Life any way you can have it, life with the cookie, life without the cookie. Happiness does not have anything to do with the cookie; it has to do with being alive. Before, who made the time?" He pauses thoughtfully. "Damn, I guess life is the cookie." , L" C! f6 Z& S3 T: M' W& b ' M9 j1 w: b& }# f生命。生命,无论如何你拥有生命。有小甜饼也罢,没有小甜饼也罢,幸福与小甜饼并非息息相关,而是与生命的存在有关。可是,时光一去不复返,谁又能让时光倒流呢?”他停顿了一下,若有所思,说:“该死,我觉得生命就是那块小甜饼”。1 F; }$ U7 d) ~